The Intelligent Person

The Life Foundations Nexus






Copyright January 22, 2005 4:20 PM CST

By Dr. Michael J. Bisconti, D.Sc., Ph.D.

Reviewed By Dr. Leonard Weinstein, M.D.




What is stronger than sex?  There are a number of places we can look to answer this question?  We will start with the most unusual one, the concentration camps of Hitler Germany during World War II.  Medical studies conducted after the concentration camps were liberated provide abundant evidence of a very simple truth:  as the innocent victims of the Hitler madness progressed through various stages of starvation, there was less and less sexual interest until there was no sexual interest at all.  Modern studies of famine and starvation in Africa reveal the same simple truth.


The mechanism behind the loss of sexual interest is this:  God has created human beings with INSTINCTS.  Here is Webster’s entry for the word “instinct” (don’t worry, right after the definitions, we will be providing a simple explanation of what instinct is):


in•stinct \"in-'sting(k)t\ noun [ME, fr. L instinctus impulse, fr. instinguere to incite; akin to L instigare to instigate] (15c)


1:  a natural or inherent aptitude, impulse, or capacity <had an instinct for the right word>


2a:  a largely inheritable and unalterable tendency of an organism to make a complex and specific response to environmental stimuli without involving reason  b: behavior that is mediated by reactions below the conscious level


in•stinc•tu•al \in-"sting(k)-che-wel, -chel, -shwel\ adjective

in•stinc•tu•al•ly adverb


To put it simply, an instinct is “like a person that tries to force you do a certain thing.”  For example, there is the instinct for food, which moves you to hunt down something to eat and is accompanied by hunger.  There is the instinct for breathable air, which moves you to open a window when the air in a room is stuffy.  There is the instinct for sleep, which is accompanied by feelings of tiredness or exhaustion.  There are many other instincts.  Of course, the instinct we are talking about here is the SEXUAL INSTINCT.


Notice that an instinct does NOT force you to do anything.  An instinct only TRIES to force you to do something.  In other words, God has created us with CONTROL over our instincts.  HOWEVER, in abnormal personalities instinct can have more power than it has in normal people AND A NORMAL PERSON MIGHT HAVE A HARD TIME KEEPING A SPECIFIC INSTINCT UNDER CONTROL.


There is something else you should know about instincts.  God has given each instinct a certain amount of power.  One instinct is more powerful than another.  In a normal, mentally healthy person, the instinct for survival, which moves you to get food and water and shelter, is STRONGER than the instinct for sex, which moves you to procreate.




Now, how can we use this knowledge in our daily lives?  Well, for one thing, studies have shown that people who are having a difficult time refraining from improperly satisfying their sexual appetite (an appetite is a desire that tells you that an instinct is at work)…these people…have an easier time when they cut back on their food intake and so allow the survival instinct to assert itself more.  (Note that we are not suggesting that you starve yourself in order to have an easier time controlling your sexual impulses.  In fact, God in his wisdom has built in a “counterforce mechanism” that temporarily INCREASES sexual interest once you begin to starve.  The subject of “counterforce mechanisms” is a complex one, which we shall discuss at another time.)


Probably the most important thing we can tell you is that there are a number of PHYSICAL steps you can take to eliminate EVIL sexual appetite.  Please note that there are some who look for any excuse to twist our words, so we must emphasize that WE DID NOT SAY THAT SEX WAS EVIL.  WE SAID, “SEXUAL APPETITE CAN BE EVIL.”  For example, if you experience sexual appetite for another person’s wife or husband, THAT sexual appetite is evil.  (Note that the word “evil” means “something that encourages you to sin.”  Evil is not itself sin.)


Now, for the meticulous (detail-oriented) among us, WE EMPHASIZE THAT WE ARE ONLY TALKING ABOUT ELIMINATING EVIL SEXUAL APPETITE.  There is much more that needs to be said.  For now, we refer you to our two articles How to Find a Husband and How to Find a Wife.  To the married, we bring the following Scripture passage to your attention (1 Corinthians 7:3-5):


Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.


Here is the same passage from the InterClued KJV Bible:


Let [there is no room for debate here] the [a] husband render [give] unto [to] the [his] wife due benevolence [the satisfaction of sexual appetite]: and likewise also the wife [a wife must provide the satisfaction of the sexual appetite] unto [of] the [her] husband.  The wife hath [has] not power [authority (but this is NOT an absolute lack of authority and authority is NOT PHYSICAL CONTROL.  Authority is simply a right.  A right is an idea.  A right is not an act.  A right is not a physical act.  Of course, a right may be demonstrated in an act, including a physical act.)] of [over] her own body, but the husband [but the husband has a degree of authority (see preceding clue) over her body]: and likewise also the husband hath [has] not power [authority (see earlier clue)] of (over) his own body, but the wife [but the wife has a degree of authority (see earlier clue) over his body].  Defraud ye not [Do not cheat (out of satisfaction of sexual appetite)] one the other [one another], except it be with consent [except you agree to do so (that is, agree not to have sexual relations)] for a time [temporarily], that ye [you] may give yourselves to [devote yourselves to (do nothing other than to engage in)] fasting [abstaining (refraining {holding oneself back}) from the satisfaction of ALL PHYSICAL APPETITES (this is not simply refraining from eating and from sexual relations)] and prayer; and come together again [and resume sexual relations later], that Satan tempt you not [does not test (cause you pain {mentally and, specifically, pain in the form of feelings of anxiety, guilt, and mental anguish})] for [because of] your incontinency [lack of self-control (in trying to totally suppress your normal, God-given sexual appetites)].